Mothering Your Mother: Finding Home Care For Your Aging Parent

Growing up, your mother was a pillar of strength and kindness that you admired. It seemed like she could do it all and still make time for you. But now, as you watch her age, you see her gradual decline. It could be health-related or otherwise, but you suspect that home care might be necessary.

More and more, you find yourself taking care of her – making doctor’s appointments, reminding her to take her medicine, doing her shopping for her. She’s still the same woman you knew growing up, but she is getting old, and you realize it may be time to decide for her to hire a home care provider.

This may not be an easy decision – perhaps your mother still values her independence and doesn’t believe she needs the help. But there comes the point when you, as her child, are the one who needs assistance in providing the caregiving.

After all, you are an incredibly busy person with your own schedule and needs. It’s important to realize that there is nothing wrong with hiring home care for your aging mother. On the contrary, it is in both of your best interests to have someone who can devote hours at a time specifically for your mother.

Doing so will prevent future burnout and avoid a buildup of stress and resentment. These feelings are counterproductive and would only make your mother’s caretaking that much harder.


Things To Consider When Finding Home Care

Once you decide you want to hire some home care help, there are a few things to keep in mind during the process.


adult son sitting outside with his elderly mother


Hire The Right Caregiver 

If you are hiring independently from an agency like MeetCaregivers, you will have to rely heavily on your intuition at some points.

You may have a choice candidate in front of you, but if you got a feeling while meeting them that their heart wasn’t in their job, that person would not be a good pick, no matter how qualified they may be.

Besides being genuinely caring and devoted to home care, you want a caregiver with similar interests as your mother. From taste in music to hobbies (even if your mother no longer performs them), having commonality between your mother and her caretaker will make the transition easier on every party involved.


Be Firm But Respectful

Expect resistance at times. Having a stranger in the house telling them to do things like take their medicine or helping them bathe may be challenging to get used to. In addition, if your mother can no longer drive, she may feel bitter about her loss of vehicular mobility.

You may also become responsible for her finances. This could make her feel upset about losing her independence, but making sure she is financially secure is necessary for caregiving.


Involve Other Family Members

Perhaps you have siblings who live far away and aren’t close to your mother. They may not be fully aware of her condition and try making decisions from afar. Possibly, they could make decision-making difficult. They may argue with you about the best course of action regarding your mother’s care.


Understand Your Parent’s Needs

There are several things to keep in mind as her child, whether you are taking on the caregiver role or finding assistance. First, stay knowledgeable of your mother’s mental status so you can relay it to caregivers and doctors. Every party involved in your mother’s psychological and physical care need to be acutely aware of her situation. This ensures she gets the proper care she needs.

If your mother develops health problems, it is essential to learn as much as possible about them. If you find seminars or meetings about a disease pertinent to your mother, attend them. This could be the best way for you to learn. Many of these will give you insight that the internet cannot. In addition, it is crucial to ensure that the family has a primary decision-maker about medical decisions. This way, the caregiver has someone to refer to for help.


MeetCaregivers Can Help

When it comes to your mother, you want to give back to her the very best. After all, she gave so much to raise you. Making sure you pick the right caregiver is a small thing you can do to help her as she enters a new phase of her life.

We’re here to help. For more information, contact us at 1-888-541-1136 or

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