Caregiving

Mothering Your Mother

Home Care - Woman and Her Elderly Mother

Your mother has always been there for you.

Growing up, she was a pillar of strength and kindness that you admired. It seemed like she could do it all, and still make time for you. But now, as you watch her age, you see her gradual decline, whether it’s health-related or otherwise.

More and more, you find yourself taking care of her–making doctor’s appointments, reminding her to take her medicine, doing her shopping for her. She’s still the same woman you knew growing up, but she is getting old, and you realize it may be time to decide for her to hire a home care provider.

This may not be an easy decision–perhaps your mother still values her independence and doesn’t believe she needs the help. But there comes the point when you, as her child, is the one who needs assistance in providing the caregiving.

After all, you are an incredibly busy person with your schedule and needs to attend. It is important to realize that there is nothing wrong with hiring home care for your aging mother. It is in both of your best interests to have someone who can devote hours at a time specifically for your mother.

Doing so will prevent future burnout and avoid a buildup of stress and resentment. These feelings are counterproductive and would only make your mother’s caretaking that much harder.

Home Care - A Caregiver With A Cute Old LadyOnce you decide you want to hire some home care help, there are a few things to keep in mind during the process

If you are hiring independent from an agency like Meetcaregivers, you will have to rely heavily on your intuition at some points.

You may have a choice candidate in front of you, but if you got a feeling while meeting them that their heart wasn’t in their job, that person would not be a good pick, no matter how qualified they may be.

Besides being genuinely caring and devoted to home care, you want a caregiver with similar interests as your mother. From taste in music to hobbies (even if your mother no longer performs them), having commonality between your mother and her caretaker will make the transition easier on every party involved.

Expect resistance at times. Having a stranger in the house telling them to do things like take their medicine or helping them bathe may be challenging to get used to. If your mother can no longer drive, she may feel bitter about her loss of vehicular mobility.

As her child, there are several things to keep in mind, whether you are taking on the caregiver role or finding assistance. Stay knowledgeable of your mother’s mental status so you can relay it to caregivers and doctors. Every party involved in your mother’s psychological and physical care need to be acutely aware of her situation. This ensures she gets the proper care she needs.

You may also become responsible for her finances. This could possibly make her feel upset about losing her independence, but it is a necessary part of caregiving so that she is financially secure.

Home Care - Triumphant Old LadyDealing with other family members

Perhaps you have siblings who live far away and aren’t in close contact with your mother. They may not be fully aware of her condition and try making decisions from afar. Possibly, they could make decision making difficult. They may argue with you about what the best course of action regarding your mother’s care is. Standing your ground and

If your mother develops health problems, it is essential to learn as much as possible about them. If you find seminars or meetings about a disease that is pertinent to your mother, attend them. This could be the best way for you to learn. Many of these will give you insight that the internet cannot. With that, it is crucial to make sure that the family has a primary decision maker about medical decisions. This way the caregiver has someone to refer to for help.

When it comes to your mother, you want to give back to her the very best. After all, she gave so much to raise you. Making sure you pick the right caregiver is a small thing you can do to help her as she enters a new phase of her life.

For more information, contact Meetcaregivers at 1-888-541-1136 or info@meetcaregivers.com

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